It is easy to see why there is a movement of parents to replace traditional dating with a formal courtship between a young man and woman.These parents are involved in their children’s lives, seeking to protect their innocence and purity for marriage.That’s why it’s so important for our teens to wait to date.
In junior high, teens don’t have the discernment to know if a friend really is a Christian.
They believe that if the child says he is a Christian, then he is.
Whom they should date As a starting point, we believe our teens should develop friendships with and eventually date only other Christians (2 Corinthians -16).
Why go out with someone who does not have your values?
However, even with these guidelines, three out of four of our teens had their first real date to the school prom in their junior year at age 17.
And those first dates were all with friends, not with someone with whom they were romantically involved.
It’s not that our teens were not interested in dates beyond a friendship, but we had talked through the few pros and the many cons of exclusive dating enough that they felt changing the relationship from friendship to romance might ruin the friendship.
Our teenagers would all say that their prom dates were a lot of fun. Many of the parents were involved with before-dance dinners, chaperoning the dance, and hosting after-dance activities at homes or rented facilities.
He smiled as he thought about all those after-school trips over the last few years: dance classes, piano practices, the unending cycle of softball games and tournaments.